How many of you feel like you aren’t good enough or worthy enough if you don’t reach a goal? How many of you find that you put so much pressure on yourself to do something that the pressure of the tasks outweighs the actual task? Or you put unrealistic expectations onto a task, for example I will be happy when I can just look amazing in that bikini. I know I am one that is guilty of this! It’s time to cut the crap and lose the attitude of I will be happy when I reach this goal, and start working on being happy now.
As you are.
With complete or incomplete goals: More importantly, set realistic and attainable goals.
The biggest mistakes we can make are expecting goals to be easy and trying to do too much too soon.
See your goals as challenges to conquer, not things that are to come easy to you. For example, just because you can’t run 1km, 3km, 5km or 10km doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to run if you want to. Even start with running 100 meters and then GRADUALLY build it up. And be bloody proud of yourself!
Stop expecting things to be easy first time round, or even the 50th time round. Expect challenges. Expect things that you want in life to be worth fighting for. And then go fight for them!
For me when I first started running, it drove me crazy that I couldn’t “run” for one kilometre, or even that my “running” pace, was more like a brisk walk. But I stuck with it and conquered that initial goal and have continued to work on improving myself at this. If running had come easy to me I probably would have gotten bored with it, the hard is what makes things great. Challenge yourself, and each time you work on a goal it gets a little bit easier and a little bit more attainable.
Further, just because you can’t eat healthy 100% of the time doesn’t mean incorporating some aspects and making some healthy swaps to start with isn’t going to benefit you. Over time it gets easier and you will be able to learn more and it will become second nature.
Taste buds take time to change from what is considered “normal” and to appreciate real food. Gradual changes are what helps to make bigger and better and more permanent lifestyle changes.
Everybody starts somewhere.
Too often I see people give up with their healthy lifestyle changes because they tried to change everything at once and expected the changes to miraculously stick overnight. You need to build healthy habits from the ground up to have a strong foundation that will last a lifetime. We all make mistakes. Make healthy habits permanent and learn from any hiccups along the way! Chances are the thing you are beating yourself up about today, will not even be a worry to you in a week, month, or a years time. If you can fix it, do so. If you cant, then accept it and move on.
You are beautiful, you are worthy, and you are alive. Breathe. Relax. You’ve got this.
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